Each and every day it's the SAME THING...."Spencer, how do we ask for things in our house ?" Usually at this point he blurts out, "drink please" We've taught him to say please like it's the magic word. Like demanding with the word please attached is the key to getting what you want.
"Please don't demand from me Spencer, you need to ask. Mom, will you get me a drink. May I have a spoon."
He always complies and we start all over again.
J gets fed up and will say, "Spencer, if you don't ask nice the first time....you aint gettin it"
Sunday he asked me for a drink. "Mom, Get Me Milk !"
I completely ignored him. He said it again...only with more attitude and 'a look'.
I ignored him again...come on dude...you're smarter than this. If we haven't gone over this for the last 6 months I'd help ya out...but please....now you're just wastin' both of our time.
He then chooses to walk closer and yell it in my personal space....because Obviously I didn't hear him the first 2 times.
I responded with, "No Spencer. We don't ask for things this way. And you Certainly don't talk to me that way."
He huffed and let out a frustrated growl and then walked toward the hall. Which leads to the bedroom. Where J and the babies were trying to nap. Which then put me in the position of tackling him and wrestling him to the floor, hog tying him and slapping some duct tape over his mouth.
buuuuuuuut, I decided to see where it went.
He circled back around and was pacing. Finally he says, "MOM! you either Get Me a Drink....or I'm going to go wake up Ryan!" (see he is smart, he knows Ryan is the light sleeper of the two) he continues, "What's it gonna be mom. What's your choice gonna be ? Get a drink or me go wake Ryan up ?"
SURELY you don't think I taught him that line. Oh but Mother of Pearl I did. friggity frack fargumsnogit. I HATE IT when they say what I say and with the attitude and 'the look' and 'the eyes' because FIRST of all....you are too small to be using such big words and screw you I don't look or sound Anything Like That When I Talk To You ! Makin me sound all crazy .
20 minutes later Spencer was able to free himself from the rope and duct tape....and asked for the drink using the words, mom, will and please.
ugh !
A very dear friend of mine has a nephew who went the drug route in life. During one of the family counseling sessions they learned that.....kids who are bigger risk takers...dare devils, are more likely to become drug addicts. Or was it, try drugs ? Either way.....I feel blessed that I finally land on the right side of the fence as far as those statistics go.
and to answer your question. cuz I know you are wondering now. yes. J is a drug addict.
WHILE I was video taping the kids on the stairs I was able to capture Nathan stripping off his unders. Something I deal with EVERY STINKING DAY. Only to my surprise something magical and almost hopeful happened.
