Spencer has always been my "friend maker" He is extremely social and will talk to anyone of smaller stature. "lets play" can be heard at playgrounds in parks and at fast food joints.
Cameron is friendly but is more reserved and follows on the heels of his brother in social situations. Or he's fine to stay by himself.
There was a birthday party invitation that came home prior to Halloween. The birthday boy isn't in their kindergarten class but was in their preschool class and I often see him playing with Spencer during recess and before school.
It wasn't addressed to one or both of the boys but Spencer assured me it was just for him. The invitation was given to Cameron. but according to Spencer he gave it to Cam to give to Spencer.
I asked the boys mother at the Halloween parade just to make sure and she let me know that both boys were invited.....however I'll never know if my asking didn't push her into inviting them both.
Since then Spencer has come home from school and has been begging me to set up a play date with a new boy from his class. It's Axl this and Axl that. mom can Axl come over....can I play at Axl's house ?
I sent a note with Spencer to give to Axl. It had his phone number on it and said that Spencer wanted to set up a time to play.
I got a call last night and it was quickly arranged that Spencer would go home with Axl after school today.
I put a note in Spencer's backpack for his teacher advising her that he would be going home with them and then told Cam that I would still be there to pick him up.
Cam quickly told me that he would go with Spencer to Axl's house. :-(
I'm sure that it would be fine if he did. I don't think Axl would care but when I asked Spencer if it would be ok he quietly said, "no....I just want to play with Axl"
They've always been considered a "pair" And them splitting up is fine with me. I think it's good for both of them. But Cam has always relied on Spencer to set it up.....and his sweet little voice wanting to go today just about broke my heart.
I'm hoping that this will force Cam to make his own friends and play dates.
I'm still waiting for the day that the one brings home a real date and the date leaves with the other one :)
**UPDATED**
I picked up a single child from kindergarten today. He had Spencer's backpack in hand. He climbed in the car happily enough and reminded me that Spencer went in Axl's car. I didn't say anything. As we pulled out of the school parking lot Cam said sweetly, "I hope Spencer has a good time"
My heart was so full that the breaking part just hurt even more. SUCH a great brother.
